Buddha once said that the root of all suffering is attachment. So let it all go! But where to start?
Have a look at the list below and see which one(s) resonate(s) with you. Pick the one that you are struggling with the most at the moment and make conscious daily attempts at reducing (and then removing) it from your life.
You know who they are: the ones who don’t understand you, don’t respect you, use you, drain your energy… Stay away from them!
We would do ourselves a tremendous favour by letting go of the people who poison our spirit. Steve Maraboli
Anger eats you from the inside. Resentment hardens your emotions, narrows your options in responding to life, clouds your judgement, locks you out of experiencing the flow of life, shifts your attention from those who matter to you to those whom you disdain, and it deadens your spirit. Start practising forgiveness for your own sake and to let go of people and emotions that no longer serve you. My favourite forgiveness practice is Ho’oponopono; you can read about what it is and how to do it here.
Forgiveness is not something we do for other people. We do it for ourselves to get well and move on. Unknown
In order to heal we must forgive. And sometimes, the person we must forgive is ourselves. Mila Bron
Approval of others
Who are they to judge you? You know better. You know your story and where you are coming from. Remember that you are amazing just the way you are. You are the best at being you; everyone else is already taken. People will love you; people will hate you; and in the end, none of it will have anything to do with you.
What people in the world think of you is none of your business. Martha Graham
Comparing your life to the life of others
You have no idea where they are coming from and what their story is. You are perfect the way you are and you are exactly where you need to be. Remember that it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful.
Comparison is the thief of joy- Roosevelt
Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle- Jon Acuff
Negative body image
Isn’t that the little voice in your head? Your body hears what your mind is thinking…So, be kind and gentle to yourself. What matters most is that you feel comfortable in your own skin and that you are healthy. Nobody has the right to tell you what the perfect body type is. The perfect body type is the one you feel confident and beautiful in. You are beautiful and perfect exactly the way you are, so give yourself a massive dose of self-love.
Life is way too short to spend another day at war with yourself-Unknown
Stop wasting time on making excuses. Use that time to find a way to make it work, to do what you want to achieve. You want to exercise but say that you are too tired or don’t have the time? Wake up 20-30 minutes earlier and go to the gym or do yoga in your living room. Schedule time in your calendar to create time for what you really want to do.
If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.- Unknown
Depending on others (and the idea of a perfect partner) for happiness
Nobody is going to knock on your door and make all your problems disappear. You are the reason for your own happiness. Your happiness is in your own hands. Be happy with yourself and enjoy your own company. You need to be comfortable in your own shoes before being with someone else.
There is nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company. Mandy Hale
You gotta love your own company, so you choose people out of love and not loneliness. Karen Salmansohn
What goes around comes around…Notice when you are complaining or talking negatively. Change that by rephrasing your thoughts in a positive way. Acknowledge little things that you are grateful for and practise gratitude. Change your perspective: the glass is half-full!
Filter all negativity to produce positive ripples – Cherie Dirksen
For you to be happy, you need to let go of the things you know will never be again. You have to let go of your past, the memories that bring you down, emotions that no longer serve you. Looking back will prevent you from moving forward and accepting, opening to what is coming. By unloading the past, we make room to welcome the future.
When you let go, something better will come along. Look forward and embrace all that awaits you.- Unknown
If you look at today through the eyes of the past, you can never see what the present moment has to offer. – Bryant McGill
There is no reason to feel insecure. We all have flaws but some people are better than others at projecting self-confidence. Have faith in yourself, you can do amazing things! And if you’re not convinced, try to pretend for a bit.
You are good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, strong enough. Believe it and STOP letting insecurity run your life- Thema Davis
The image below says it all. Expect nothing and appreciate everything as this is the key to happiness. You will see that when you find the courage to let go of your expectations and of what you can’t change, it will be one of the happiest moments in your life.
As Mandy Hale says, we must remember that happiness is letting go of what we think our life is supposed to look like and start celebrating it for everything that it is.
Now, if none of those appeal to you and you would still like a boost of happiness, here are 11 tips you can do to be happy in the next 30 minutes!
If you have stories of hope using these and would like to encourage others, please feel free to share them in the comments below. I would love to hear them!
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